Help! My Child Won't Sleep!

Monday, February 26, 2018

Diving into the tiny human brain and the science behind sleep!

[This is also an episode of Friday Free Talk on The Tranquility Tribe Podcast on iTunes. Listen here.]

Hello Tranquility Tribe!  Thanks for joining us for the fifth episode of the Tranquility Tribe podcast!  In this episode, Hehe spoke to the incredible Alyssa Blask Campbell (one of my personal favorite childhood educators, aside from Hehe of course!).  Throughout the podcast, Hehe talks to Alyssa about her business, Seed and Sew, and her passion for supporting parents with her knowledge about sleep and emotional development among tiny humans.  

Who is Alyssa?

Lover of chai lattes and tiny humans (aren’t we all!), Alyssa has a masters in Early Childhood Education and a wide array of experiences working with children and their families, including being a nanny, a teacher of all ages between infancy and kindergarten, and a sleep, education, and behavioral consultant.  One of her many passions is studying emotional development during infancy and childhood, with a particular focus on the intersection of sleep and development.  Alyssa’s goal trough Seed and Sew is to support and educate parents and to connect families so that they can help each other through the trying times of parenthood.  

Why is this support so important?  

We are not meant to raise children by ourselves - they weren’t kidding when they said it takes a village!  As the number of households with two working parents has increased, so have the difficulties associated with ensuring that children get the attention they need.  Trying to care for a young child on top of the already busy daily routine can make parents understandably exhausted!  Our society no longer has the same family structure that it used to, but that doesn’t mean that we can’t lean on others in our community for support. 

One reason that sleep causes so much strife among parents is that it is something that you cannot MAKE your child do.  Raising a tiny human can be confusing, and the unpredictable nature of sleep adds to the lack of control that parents feel.  

From her five years of experience working as a sleep consultant, Alyssa has seen firsthand the variety of struggles that parents experience.  One of the biggest concerns among new parents is how long they’ll have to wait before their little one is on a “normal” sleep schedule.  Alyssa’s answer?  Tiny humans don’t start producing melatonin, the hormone that helps regulate sleep, until they are four months old.  Until the four month mark, Alyssa says, it’s important to focus on the awake time rather than the sleep time.  Your little one shouldn’t be awake for longer than 90 minutes to two hours at a time.  The best way to maximize sleep for babies between zero and four months is to find their ideal “sleep pressure”; if they are overtired or not tired enough, they won’t sleep as well or as long.  Alyssa recommends using a sleep app, or even just an old-fashioned pencil and paper, to keep track of your tiny human’s sleep schedule so that you can know when they are in need of their next nap.  

After the four month mark, you can start working with your little one to consolidate their sleep.  However, it’s important to keep in mind that a “normal” sleep schedule may not be what you expect or hope for, at least at the beginning.  According to Alyssa, getting your child to sleep for six hours at a time is an accomplishment.  

Many parents may not know where to start when trying to sync their child’s sleep schedule; throughout the podcast, Alyssa provides some suggestions that can help you support your tiny human’s sleep.  First, that ideal sleep pressure mentioned above?  It doesn’t just apply to infants!  Alyssa says that the majority of sleep problems that she sees in little ones have to do with the fact that they are not in the right sleep pressure zone; that is, they are either not ready to sleep or are so tired that they can’t go to sleep (it sounds counterintuitive, but we’ve all been there!).  In addition to finding that sleep pressure sweet spot, it’s also very important that your tiny human feels safe and loved.  As Maslow’s hierarchy suggests, a secure environment is necessary before anything else can be achieved!  However, getting your child to sleep can sometimes involve letting them cry.  We’re not talking about the cry-it-out method, though - on the contrary, Alyssa supports the Ferber method, which encourages allowing your child to cry, but checking in on them in regular intervals to let them know that they are safe (for more info, check out all that Alyssa has to offer through Seed and Sew!).  Other quick tips include putting blackout curtains and a noise machine in your baby’s sleep room.  Excess light and sudden noises can disrupt your tiny human’s sleep, especially during the light sleep stage of the REM cycle, so blocking out light and maintaining constant noise can help your little one stay asleep for longer.  

What's the bottom line?

The topics of both sleep and emotional development are complicated, often stigmatized, and charged with differing opinions.  What’s Alyssa’s piece of parting knowledge?  Be critical of the advice that you hear or read - if it’s worded in a way that makes you feel fearful, look for different, more supportive resources.  And ultimately, trust your instincts!  You know your child best, and you have the final say.  

If you want to learn more about Alyssa and Seed and Sew, visit seedandsew.org or check her business out on Facebook or on Instagram at @seed.and.sew.  And if you want to hear more from Alyssa, stay tuned - she will be starting her own podcast soon!  

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"Welcome to the Tranquility Tribe"



Written by our Guest Blogger, Kyra Shreeve. She is a Biochemistry, Health Policy, and Music student at Brandeis University. 

Tackling the mysterious Pelvic Floor with Madison White

Thursday, February 22, 2018

Boston, MA, USA

Trauma, Pleasure, and Awakening the Goddess


[This is also an episode of Friday Free Talk on The Tranquility Tribe Podcast on iTunes. Listen here.]

Hello, Tranquility Tribe! Welcome back to the fourth episode of the Tranquility Tribe podcast.  Today, Hehe sat down with Madison White, who is a Pelvic Floor Therapist focused on holistic healing and the promotion of women’s sexual and overall health.  Together, Hehe and Madison discussed everything from painful sex to methods for healing after having a baby, as well as the huge role that the pelvic floor plays in women’s health and everyday life.

Nurse turned Pelvic Floor Healer 

Madison began her career as a nurse, but felt that she was lacking the opportunity to connect with her patients on a deeper, more emotional and spiritual level.  She recognized the understanding that she had of her own body and began to look for ways in which she could promote this understanding within others.  Influenced by the alternative medicine ideal that the mind and the body should be treated as a single entity rather than an assortment of distinct systems, she began to focus on energy healing with a particular interest in the pelvic floor.  Madison’s work in the field of holistic pelvic care therapy is centered around the idea that the pelvis can have a large impact on overall health.   

Don't Talk About Your Vagina in Public 

For many, the pelvic floor and the area surrounding it can be really embarrassing to talk about.  This is largely because we as a society tend to avoid any talk of genitalia, periods, or other related ideas.  However, the shame that people feel when it comes to these topics can manifest itself physically by causing tension in the pelvic floor, which can lead to feelings of stress and other symptoms in the body.  So what can we do about it? 

One of the best ways to promote pelvic floor health is to see a pelvic care therapist, like Madison.  Pelvic care therapists can help you dig deep into the mental, physical, and spiritual stressors that could be affecting your pelvic area.  Pelvic floor care is especially important for expecting parents – your pelvis goes through an extraordinary amount of change throughout the birth process, and taking the time to prepare it beforehand and allow it to recover afterwards can have major benefits to both your physical and emotional wellbeing!  Giving birth is the biggest thing that your pelvic floor does.  Just like the training and rest that a professional athlete must do before and after a big competition, your pelvic floor works best if it is healthy and is given time for its muscles to return to their original state. 

When you have a baby, your body is forever changed by the birthing process.  It can take some time to reacquaint yourself with your new body (as well as to figure out how to care for your other new body – your tiny human!).  But you’re not alone in this process, which is why this topic is so important!  Birthing is a miraculous event that reflects the intrinsic strength and power of women.  We’ve been taught that the birth process is dirty, and therefore we feel ashamed or embarrassed to talk about the struggles that come with it.  But mothers and women in general have so much knowledge and support to share with one another. 

So be brave and ask for the help that you need!  By sharing our stories and talking about our bodies, we can empower women to understand the incredible accomplishment of birth and to grow through the transformation of their bodies rather than feel ashamed or confused.  Together, we have the opportunity to change our approach to the birthing process to focus more holistically on the connection between the mind and the body as well as to ensure that women feel heard.  As Madison explained, every woman has an inner gut instinct, a “root voice,” that grounds them and provides them with knowledge and strength.  The more that women support each other, the stronger these voices become. 

Sex After Baby.

Speaking of raising our voices…let’s talk about sex!  Most people already know that having sex while being pregnant is perfectly fine.  But what about after giving birth?  According to Madison, you should wait 6-8 weeks before having sex after a delivery in order to allow your body to fully recover.  If you feel pain or numbness during sex (regardless of whether you’ve had a baby), Madison recommends speaking to a pelvic care therapist to find ways to improve your pelvic health.  Sex should be enjoyable!

If you are interested in learning more about Madison’s work and how she can help you, you can find more information on her website at www.madisonwhite.net or you can contact her via email at healing@madisonwhite.net or via phone at (339) 201-1346. Madison offers exclusive discounts for Tranquility by HeHe clients to ensure you are pampered in your journey to parenthood! 

Don’t forget to join our private Facebook, The Tranquility Tribe Podcast, and follow us on Instagram at @tranquilitybyhehe!

"Welcome to the Tranquility Tribe"



Written by our Guest Blogger, Kyra Shreeve. She is a Biochemistry, Health Policy, and Music student at Brandeis University. 

Is Acupuncture Really Worth It? With Nicole Brown

Boston, MA, USA

Exploring Acupuncture during Pregnancy and Labor! 

[This is also an episode of Friday Free Talk on The Tranquility Tribe Podcast on iTunes. Listen here.]

Welcome back, Villagers! Thanks for joining us for episode three of the Tranquility Tribe podcast!  In this episode, Hehe sat down with Nicole Brown, an acupuncturist in the Boston area who specializes in Women’s Health. Together, they talked about the incredible benefits of self-care, especially during pregnancy and after delivery, as well as a variety of self-care and pain relief options.

Who Is Nicole Brown?

Nicole became interested in alternative medicine when she moved to the U.S. for college and began to experience health issues that weren’t fully addressed by traditional medicine.  Through her own research, Nicole became very knowledgeable about the countless alternative treatment options that are available.  Nicole now works as a licensed Acupuncturist and certified Health Coach in the Boston area.  Thanks to her success with alternative medicine, Nicole is passionate about sharing alternative health options with patients in order to help them feel empowered and in control of their bodies. 

Here's a hint: It's worth it.

So what does acupuncture have to do with pregnancy?  Nicole notes that there are many challenges that her patients commonly face during different periods in their pregnancies.  In the first trimester, many pregnant people experience nausea as their hormone levels vary and their bodies begin to adjust.  Pregnancy can also cause anxiety as you become aware of the changes occurring in your body and your life.  During the second and third trimesters, it’s common to have back pain, swelling that puts extra pressure on nerves, and gastrointestinal problems.  Nicole emphasizes that all of these symptoms are very common among pregnant people and that it is important to recognize how you are feeling and to take care of yourself through this process in the way that works best for you. 

The changes that take place in your body during pregnancy are often painful, and the fact that you can’t depend on the medications that you may regularly take to treat your pain can be frustrating.  Acupuncture can be a powerful tool to help treat pain in a way that is effective but gentle and completely safe for your growing tiny human!  This treatment option can also help support your mental health by increasing the release of serotonin, the “happy hormone” that can help you relax and, in the long-term, even enable you to feel more positive and confident about your pregnancy. 

Both, Nicole and HeHe, mention amazing things they have witnessed happen when TTC, expectant, or new parents utilize the power of Acupuncture.  

Why did Nicole make the cut to be on the Tranquility Team? 

Her focus on mental health awareness and her holistic approach. 

Throughout the podcast, Hehe and Nicole discuss the mental health challenges that can arise throughout pregnancy and especially after delivery.  The stressors and hormone fluctuations during pregnancy can cause changes in your mood, not to mention the drastic change in hormones and the lack of sleep that can play a role for months or years after your baby is delivered.  But you aren’t alone!  As part of this Tranquility Tribe, you are surrounded by a group of experts and parents just like you that can lift you up and share encouragement and suggestions for whatever challenges you may be facing.  The most important thing to remember is that you are the person that knows yourself best – if something feels off, trust yourself and reach out to your tribe! 


Nicole is located in Brookline, MA.  If you would like to learn more about her practice, you can contact her or sign up for her newsletter on her website or you can follow her on Facebook. Nicole offers exclusive discounts for Tranquility by HeHe clients to ensure you are pampered in your journey to parenthood! 

Don’t forget to join our private Facebook, The Tranquility Tribe Podcast, and follow us on Instagram at @tranquilitybyhehe!

"Welcome to the Tranquility Tribe"


Written by our Guest Blogger, Kyra Shreeve. She is a Biochemistry, Health Policy, and Music student at Brandeis University. 

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